Dating a young single mother
Whether you’re divorced and co-parenting with an ex, never married, or chose to be a single mom, one thing’s for sure: Once you’ve crossed over to single mom status, life will never be the same again. Then there’s the sinking guilt of raising my son without his father and the exhaustion of having to do it all.
As a five-year veteran of the single mom gig, I’ve been on a constant emotional rollercoaster — feeling like queen of the universe for potty-training my son in a month, panicking at 3 a.m., as I nurse his 104-degree fever, and even doing a happy dance after dropping him off at day care. Being a single mom is pretty much as tough as it’s cracked up to be, but that doesn’t mean I don’t love it.
She does and says things without recognizing that to some extent our whole family is dating this guy.
This year I came home four times from college and he was in town every single time.
After I went back to campus each time Mom said, ‘I never get to see you!
’ Yes, well, that’s because you were with your boy.” Dating for two is difficult; dating in a crowd is downright complicated.
Dating is a juggling act, but it’s doable (so do it! One night, I’m getting wined and dined, like any other single lady.
And everyone has strong emotions and opinions about who is involved and what the outcome might be. Here are a number of dating “best practices” for single parents: 1.
I always feel refreshed after a night on the town and super-excited to resume my mommy duties.
Talking about the absent parent hurts every time Raising a baby and toddler alone is a lot different than parenting an inquisitive five-year-old whose friends have moms and dads who either live together, or are both involved.
Realize that you’re not just forming a relationship; you’re creating a family.
When kids predate dating, the couple’s relationship inherently creates competing attachments.
But be warned: It’s important not to become a recluse, or to feel sorry for yourself.