It could cause problems for those who can't handle the fact that the pastor has a personal life and has feelings for someone of the opposite gender.There is a very legitimate fear that the relationship could go wrong and cause irreparable damage to the minister's "follow-ability." To some it could seem that the minister is putting their own desires before their responsibility for the good of the congregation.They are also there to help you discern what the Holy Spirit is saying each step of the way.This circle of confidants will probably need to grow if the friendship ever becomes a dating relationship.They need to be people who are strong enough in their love for Christ and their love for you that they can say what needs to be said about your situation.
If these weeks or months expose a distracted heart then the minister closes the door to the possibility, refocuses on the things of God, and guards his or her heart in regards to this person.The minister gradually becomes more and more interested in this person.When they are in groups together the minister finds their attention focusing more and more on this individual. What about the gossip and if the relationship gets messy?!
" "Look other places for a suitable mate, for the sake of the church don't date someone in the congregation." or at least if you are about to start dating someone in the church encourage them to change churches so the possible damage or gossip will be lessened. There are many risks to dating someone in your congregation.
This will help guard hearts and help determine the next steps.