Psychological tips for dating
But the point is to acclimate yourself to both outcomes, until the possibility of rejection no longer scares you.
You need to learn on an intuitive level that being turned down isn’t the worst thing in the world – and the only way to do that is to get turned down a couple of times.
Because of my anxiety, the possibility of being rejected by a girl I liked felt cataclysmic.
So fantasy stories like taught me how to persevere, quietly and nobly, in pursuit of young ladies who were probably quite unaware of my existence.
Our hero is Westley, humble farmboy, portrayed by Cary Elwes, who is himself a decent-looking gentleman.
Terrified of the possibility of rejection by his harsh mistress, Westley prepares a passive-aggressive campaign of ultimate unconditional devotion.
He works incredibly hard as her servant, caters to her every whim, without ever once actually declaring his intentions.
Frankly I think that’s a bit unnecessary, as I’m sure you know why already. Maybe you’re not in a relationship because you’ve been looking for the perfect man.You can’t improve your life, after all, if you aren’t willing to take risks and try new problem-solving strategies.And while it may not seem as romantic as catering to the every whim of your intended beloved, exposing yourself to increasingly more challenging (but still manageable) social situations is a much healthier way of building the confidence you need to find a date.Talk to elderly people on the bus, make small talk with shy strangers at parties, call old friends out of the blue.